SON IS VERY VIOLENT AND NOW IT IS DIRECTED AT THE FAMILY AND YES HE IS ON DRUGS THE ONLY INTERVENTION IN OUR SMALL TOWN IS JAIL THE SMALL RESOURCES AFTER JAIL HE IS VERY ABUSIVE AND CAN LIE LOOKING YOU DEAD IN THE EYE HE LIED TO THE JUDGE EVEN WE HAV A RESTRAINING ORDER ON HIM IS THIS ENOUGH HUBBY AND I ARE 60 AND WE DO NOT NEED THIS WE WANT HIM TO LEAVE JUST DISAPPEAR YA KNOW IS ASSULT CHARGES IN ORDER??? please help
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Forget for ONE moment that he's YOUR son... what if someone else had done that? What if the person who spit on your face is someone who owes you no respect or loyalty for raising him... what would you do? The fact that he is YOUR son makes it worse and that is reason enough for him to be put away.
He has gotten away with far too much, I'm sure, through the years out of simpathy for being your son. THAT is why he is in the state he is today. I speak from personal experience o ftwo similar cases I've known (I'm soon to be 60).
AT your age, you don't need anyone making life unbearable for you; you have enough worries in life without him adding any problems. REPORT him and have him arrested each and every time he comes near you or your home. Too late for speaking with him. Let it go and enjoy the years you have left.
Sounds harsh? Yeah, it sounds harsh but is there any other alternative available to you right now? Do you wish to have your son in jail for YOUR murder? It CAN happen and with drug crazed individuals you really never know.
There are five possible choices right now:
1-Have him become rehabilitated: very unlikely!
2-Have him arrested: this will prevent him harming you or your spouse or someone else, or prevent someone else killing him; it might give him time in jail or prison to get cleaned up.
3-Leave him out in the streets where he can return one day and hurt you or your spouse, or kill you and your spouse.
4-Leave him out in the streets and wait for the day when a police officer will come to your door to anounce that he is dead from an overdose or from a gunshot or a knife stab.
5-Leave him out in the streets until he is arrested for killing someone.
What do you propose to do? IT's in your hands now.
YES!!!
If you don't do something, now, someone could be hurt or killed later.
If you love your son, you will save him by throwing him in jail and making him get his life together.
Yes. Also, he should go to rehab after being release from jail. He is out of control.
Yes. He is a dangerous person. You and your husband do not have to put up with abuse from anyone - especially your son.
Have him arrested for assault and battery - maybe they will lock him up for a while.
A person who would assault his or her parents is a danger to himself and society. He will seriously hurt or kill someone if he isn't put away.
Meanwhile, do not let him in your house..keep your doors locked and if he shows up, call the police immediately.
Hell yes!
Do you want more of the same? If the answer is no then you have no choice but to press charges. You also said a restraining order so the games need to be over before he kills you and you sound like you believe this could happen. Not an easy road for you and I wish you luck.
The short answer to your question is YES!!! Spitting in a parents face is one of the most disrespectful things a child, no matter how old the child is, can do! Being on drugs is not a reason for his behavior, it is an excuse! Excuses are like as*#@les. Everybody has got one!
If you have a restraining order against him and he has violated the restraining order, he should be incarcerated and with a new charge!
It sounds like your son is in need of some serious help! You as parents should see to it that he gets the help he needs by having him commited to a lock down facility authorized by a judge! You will need an attorney to properly handle this ordeal.
Locking up an addict is only a short solution to the problem and in most cases, this does not rehabilitate the addict. It only dries them out for the period of incarceration. Because spitting in the face and pushing down is only a misdemeanor charge and I am not sure but the punishment phase is not very lengthy. The time he spends in jail will only add gasoline to the fire and upon release this will be his EXCUSE for using drugs again. He will justify his drug use by blaming you for his incarceration when he uses again it will be all your fault.
If he is not given the proper tools to handle his drug addiction he will return to using drugs and his same abusive behavior toward you and your husband.
Addiction is a disease. Once someone is addicted to drugs, they are addicts for the rest of their lives. The addict will never be over the disease but it can be controlled with the proper tools. There are only three places for a non recovering addict. Jails, institutions and death.
Your son is not willing to admit to you, much less himself that he is an addict. The first step in recovery is admitting that you are an addict.
In order to save your son's life and for you and your husband to be safe I would file the assault charges and while he is incarcerated on the charges, before he has a chance to bond out, I would seriously devote my time to finding a place for him to gain control of his life and his addiction if it meant having him commited to a lock down facility where rehabilitation is not an option but a way of life in the facility.
Yes...he needs to be taught a lesson....if a man is willing to attack his mother imagine what he is willing to do to innocent strangers to get his drug fix.
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